"Also, even though underground attacks are turned off, they keep attacking underground and will ignore every defense I have":
I need your save where the underground attacks are disabled but still moving towards the base. Otherwise I can't fix the bug that it's not reproducible.
p.s. Rampant's underground attacks always leave a trail on the ground. If there is no trail and the biters just appear somewhere in the base, then it is not a "Rampant Fixed" attack.
Regarding demolishers: at the beginning of the game you can specify any time and evolution for their attacks to start. The default is 2 hours + 25% evolution. 25% evolution is a lot of time. But if you need more, then specify another value. You can call this menu from the player settings.