Ohh, I didn't explain properly.
There are the "Advanced Fluid Handling mod", and the "Advanced Fluid Handling mod for PyMods" (this mod)
I was always using py, but I had the "general" pipe extension mod, and it was working for py as far as niobium pipes. So in addition to the mod I had, I installed this too. Now the niobium pipes are connecting with red extensions but the yellow extensions is now one shorter. than the ones I had..