Unfortunately the loader mechanics are part of the base game, so the behavior is pretty much impossible to change - part of the performance tradeoff of letting the base game mechanics instead of scripting handle the heavy lifting, so the loaders will unfortunately always prefer to put items on the left side of a belt.
For beltboxes, there's a 'batch stacking' option in settings that you might be interested in - it causes stacking to happen in batches of 4, which means the belt will be loaded on both sides evenly from a beltbox. https://thumbs.gfycat.com/MeaslySplendidBlackbear-small.gif