Just a quick update on the development of this issue:
I still couldn't find a reliable way of detect bob's mods that doesn't have bob energy stuff. Once I figure that out, I'll toss the update.
The idea here is:, if not all the depedancies are present, the mod won't enable the other variants. But detecting that you have bobmods but not bobmods.electric-boiler-4 is still giving me trouble